So American Football Linebacker James Harrison has caused a bit of a storm by telling his kids to hand back trophies they were given as they didn’t win them.
The trophies were given for making an effort and taking part but Harrison believes it doesn’t teach them anything.
Personally, I agree with Harrison.
In life we need to learn that loss is just as valid an emotion as winning.
We need to give kids something to aim at, to aspire too, to compete to succeed.
As a kid I hated losing. Any trophies I received that weren’t winners were binned or stuffed in a bin bag at the bottom of my wardrobe where they still are to this day.
I used them as motivation. I remembered what it was like to lose, to watch another team or individual walk away with the top honour and it spurred me on to do better.
We don’t seem to bat an eye when one kid excels academically and another doesn’t. A fail is a fail. There isn’t a pass mark for attending (although I may be wrong as I am getting old and it may already be in place).
I will teach my kids that winning is where they want to be and what they want to aspire to. Of course they will lose at some point but that’s a necessary evil to teach them to work harder and to apply themselves better.
I make no apologies for wanting to be a winner. It’s where everyone’s mindset should be. In sport, in school and in life, aim to win, prepare to win, want to win!